Do you find it easy or hard to unselfishly giving to others? If you are like me, you might find it hard to do, all the time. In our society, we are wired to “take care of number one,” especially in the world of business. We tend to transcend that thought process into our personal lives. How contrary this thought process is to how Christ would like for us to behave as Christians!
Christ’s message was clear. When He taught us to pray the Our Father, he taught us to say, “Thy will be done, on earth, as it is in Heaven.” Every time we say the Our Father, we surrender our will to God, by aligning our will with that of the Father. Have you ever thought about this phrase in this way? Do we really mean what we say when we pray the Our Father? God reads the heart. He knows the truth. If we mean what we say, then acting unselfishly should come easy to us. However, if we have reservations about completely submitting to the will of the Father, then acting unselfishly might require some effort. For many of us, we find it difficult to let go and let God’s do His thing.
So, if we would like to truly act unselfishly, on a more consistent basis, how can we accomplish that? Here’s a few practical suggestions to get you started:
- “Be objective; fix one’s attention upon the task and not think of oneself.” 1
- Share your time, talent and treasure with those in need.
- Collaborate with others.
- Be open to others; first seek to understand, rather than being understood.
- Be straightforward and honest in your intentions toward others.
Following these steps moves you from the point of selfish behavior to that of thinking unselfishly. Here’s why:
- You will complete tasks more appropriately for the benefit of the common good, rather than just for your own good. Therefore, more people benefit from your single effort, and you’ll actually be more highly perceived in the eyes of others.
- Giving of your time, talent and treasure lifts others up, allowing them to pay it forward with dividends.
- Collaboration can result in multiplied success! You don’t have to be the only one with good ideas. By brainstorming with others, the best ideas rise to the top, bringing success to everyone! Look for the win-win – it’s there!
- When you seek to understand before being understood, you open the pathways for problem resolution.
- Unselfish intentions creates authenticity and credibility, resulting in more opportunities for success.
Give it a try and let me know how you achieved the desired behavior.
- Guardini, Romano. Learning the Virtues That Lead You to God. Page 156. Manchester: Sophia Institute Press. 1987. Print