Evangelizing through the Catholic Arts

Aggressiveness & Arrogance -NOT! Seek Gentleness!

seek gentlenessWhen someone seems aggressive or arrogant don’t you want to run away as soon as possible? Aggressiveness and arrogance are unseemly; definitely not traits that draw people closer. So why are so many people aggressive and arrogant?   If you’ve ever been told that you come on too strong, then the virtue that you want to practice is gentleness. For when we seek gentleness, our entire disposition changes for the better.

Seek Gentleness

Gentleness is not only a fruit of the Spirit, but also the state of possessing a kind, amiable, mild-tempered nature, where one judges conscience by reason rather than by passion. Gentleness calls us to be prudent in forming judgments logically, rather than impulsively. Now, doesn’t that Continue reading

Aiming for Gentleness – A Treasured Virtue

Practicing Gentleness

Does Gentleness Elude You?

Are you overly aggressive or assertive? If so, then assess your behavior to make positive change. Truthfulness and self-awareness are at the heart of this assessment. Be honest with yourself. Expressions of aggressive behavior are emotionally based, not reason based; where decisions and reactions stem from emotion, not facts. One needs to determine the underlying cause for reacting with emotion rather than reason.

How many times have you heard Dr. Phil say to someone, “How’s that been working for you?” He knows that aggressive/overly-assertive behavior does not produce wanted results.

Gentleness requires use of reason, rather than emotion, to change unwanted behavior. It requires patience and tact, where one’s voice and words exhibit Continue reading

Embracing Gentleness: For Some a Struggle

Embracing Gentleness

Embracing gentleness can only lead to good things in your life. I speak from experience.

Before retiring from the bank auditing profession to go back to school to obtain my Masters in Pastoral Theology, I was an over-achieving technology audit manager who sought excellence in all that I did, and also sought excellence from all those who worked for me and with me. Because of my good track record of job performance, I had been tapped to lead a very special project that would impact the working style and quality of my entire team of approximately 50 people. I took this responsibility very seriously. I had an intense passion for the work, and especially the work ethic. Well, I got Continue reading

Gentleness – A Christ-like Attribute

Gentleness Gentleness is not only a fruit of the Spirit, but it is also the state of possessing a kind, amiable, mild-tempered nature. When expressing gentleness, one judges conscience by reason, rather than by passion. A gentle person prudently forms judgments logically, rather than impulsively. To express gentleness, we must articulate our points in a respectful, gentle tone. We must use our reason to assess actions, while at the same time holding our emotions at bay. By applying all of these attributes, we become more Christ-like.

True gentleness cannot be professed externally without possessing the internal virtue, for to do so would be hypocritical. Saint Francis de Sales wisely states in his book, Philothea or An Introduction to a Devout Continue reading