Human love demands a total self-giving of one to another within the covenant of marriage. There is no room for self-gratification, or for expressions of sexual intercourse aside from the conjugal act within marriage. For when these things happen, they are not based on love. Rather, they are based upon deception and a misuse of one’s own sexuality. Actions such as these, linked to the Ninth Commandment, diminish the dignity of all parties involved. Innately, we all know this, because God has infused within each one of us His Natural Law of right versus wrong. Yet, we still commit the sins against Chastity.
Sins Against Chastity
We know that to practice Chastity, we are to refrain from engaging in sexual relations with someone other than one’s own spouse. When we do not refrain from doing so, we commit the sins of lust, pornography, fornication, sodomy and/or masturbation. These are all sins against Chastity, because they diminish the unitive and procreative purposes of marriage. They are all self-centered, with self-gratification as the goal, rather than self-giving love. With these sins, there is no openness to new life. When we sin against Chastity, we disregard God’s design for sexual intercourse.
These varied sins are running rampant throughout our society. A clear majority of our society thinks that reserving sexual intercourse for married couples, is old-fashioned. But God’s design for our use of sexual relations is timeless and perfect. He made us to operate and procreate one way. It’s not like He’s improving His design with version 2.0, and now we have these acceptable “enhancements” to experience. His design of the human body was perfect at its inception. So, the “old-fashioned argument” is nothing more than an excuse to validate what we innately know to be immoral behavior; an offense against God, others and ourselves.
Our Priorities are Upside Down
So, if we know that lust, pornography, fornication, sodomy and masturbation represent sinful behavior, why is it so rampant in our society? Why are so many people ignoring the Ninth Commandment? It is because we are failing to view our sexuality as a gift from God; a gift that should be cherished. Instead, we listen to the voices around us, tempting us to sin, rather than listening to the voice of God. We place more stock in the coaxing of a friend, than the written Word of God. And, we want our behavior to be accepted by man, rather than accepted by God. Bottom line is that we have our priorities upside down.
How Do We Turn Things Right-Side Up?
First, examine how and when you might have violated the Ninth Commandment. Second, acknowledge your sinful ways. Third, ask for God’s forgiveness. Fourth, plan to change. Perhaps you need to change how you view others (with less objectification and more dignity). Or, maybe you need to extricate yourself from locations of temptation. Perhaps you need to reconsider who are your real friends. Those that steer you toward sin are not your friends. Finally, make every attempt to cherish your sexuality, as the gift that it is, from God.
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