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Handling Disappointments Appropriately

Handling Disappointments Disappointments come our way from time to time. It’s how we handle those disappointments that matter. For example, I recently learned that a big-time Catholic catalogue would not carry my book, Adventures of Faith, Hope and Charity: Finding Patience, simply because I self-published the book. It didn’t matter to them that the book was named a 2016 National Indie Excellence Award Finalist. In fact, they commented that they thought it was a really good book. They just don’t like dealing with my printing company. For that reason alone, they were declining to carry the book in their catalogue. My immediate reaction: Major disappointment!

Handling Disappointments Appropriately

With every disappointment there are lessons to learn; lessons that can shape your future for the better. Let’s face it: no one ever learns anything from success. They learn from failure. So, what am I going to do about this disappointment?

I decided, rather than reacting childishly by sulking over the matter, I will imitate our Blessed Mother, and ponder this situation in my heart. What might I do differently for the second book to improve on the situation? What other avenues might open to me in lieu of this one door closing? You know what they say, “when one door closes, another opens.” I will keep my eyes peeled for that next door opening. I will seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit. I never turn down error free advice from the Holy Spirit! I will have faith that God will show me the way. I will take my disappointment and give it to Jesus at Adoration. I will let Him lead the way. Together, Jesus and me will find a way to take this disappointment and move beyond it in the direction the Holy Spirit wants me to travel.

Always remember that “with God all things are possible” (Matt 19:26). If we never suffered from disappointments, we would then never fully appreciate the joys and successes of our lives.

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6 Responses to Handling Disappointments Appropriately

  • Virginia, I think that one of the keys to this process of dealing with disappointment, as you demonstrate, is that we have to recognize that “the door has closed” and we can’t keep trying to make it open, if not physically, by hanging on to the “shut door experience” emotionally and mentally. We have to let go (detach) and move on to what the Lord really wants for us. Recognition is such an important first step, then realizing our Mother and Her Son are right there if we open up to them.

    • Very nicely put Ronnie! Thanks for adding your voice to the discussion. Much appreciated.

    • Hmm, what a great faith. Thank you Virginia for such beautiful encouragement in handling disappointments in life. Yes, disappointments come and teach us to rely and trust God’s power in our daily endeavor. St Augustine, for whom I have been named after, and where I also belong at St. Augustine Parish, set a good example in his book, when he said, “know that our faith is strengthened by the resurrection of Christ. The passion of Christ represents the misery of our present life, now is the time for painful struggle; and then will come the recompense. Those who are lazy about carrying out their work will be brazenly impudent if they expect the recompense”.

      Is it not beautiful to endure and experience disappointments when you know that you tried all means, but did not succeed? I have seen many good Catholics leave the church because of misunderstandings when the priest asked them to follow the church teachings, or refuse to admit a child in confirmation class while such child is under age, or asking to bring the child father’s details.

      With your good example, it is so great and deeply touching that we, in this life, will not always have things go according to our plan. What if it is the devil’s snares laid ahead of you so that make you start questioning your faith? Turning to our Blessed Mother Mary, asking for the Holy Spirit’s guidance, is the most beautiful prayer in the life of a devoted Christian.

      Remember, in this life, we are not here to enjoy God, but to do His Holy Will.

  • As an Indie author myself, I share your dismay. Yes, dealing with Indie authors and their publishers is a little more work, but all sales are “work.” If we Indie authors of Christian Fiction are going to be sold in “Christian venues,” we need to do two things. 1) Make sure that they can be ordered like any other book, from distributors. I may at some point republish my YA book, The Man Who Was A Santa Claus (https://www.amazon.com/Walter-Daniels/e/B00QXAWK9K), and reprice it, to make it available that way. 2) Tell people to _ask_ them to carry the book(s). If they, for whatever reason, think that no one cares, they have no reason to carry the books.

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