When someone seems aggressive or arrogant don’t you want to run away as soon as possible? Aggressiveness and arrogance are unseemly; definitely not traits that draw people closer. So why are so many people aggressive and arrogant? If you’ve ever been told that you come on too strong, then the virtue that you want to practice is gentleness. For when we seek gentleness, our entire disposition changes for the better.
Gentleness is not only a fruit of the Spirit, but also the state of possessing a kind, amiable, mild-tempered nature, where one judges conscience by reason rather than by passion. Gentleness calls us to be prudent in forming judgments logically, rather than impulsively. Now, doesn’t that sound like a persona that you would be attracted to, rather than someone who is aggressive or arrogant?
We could use more gentle spirits in our society today. Seeking gentleness within our own spirits is the first step. For, when we are gentle with others, it has a way of coming back to us. Remember, what goes around, comes around. So, rather than being assertive and arrogant, try being gentle with others. Here’s some practical ways that you can incorporate gentleness into our life:
- Use reason, rather than emotion, to change unwanted behavior, in yourself and your children.
- Demonstrate patience and tact, where your voice and words exhibit a gentle, calm, and measured tone.
- Listen more closely to other’s opinions before forming judgments. Seek to understand where the person’s opinions stem from, and treat the person with compassion, even if you disagree.
If we would incorporate these three steps into our daily routines, then we will master the virtue of gentleness, and we will no longer hear the retort, “You’re coming on a bit strong, don’t you think?”
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