Honey versus Vinegar
What’s your choice? “You get more with honey than you do with vinegar” – a classic American idiom that speaks volumes. I think all of us would choose the sweet taste of honey over the bitter taste of vinegar. I think all of us would choose to be spoken to in truth with respect and dignity, versus in a cold, unfeeling manner.
I have learned a great deal about the importance of practicing tact. I have found ways of speaking truth, with tact. For example, have you noticed how all of my posts have a positive spin on how you can live a more virtuous life? I give you the truth, laced with honey. I offer encouraging advice, yet deliver the truth as the Church teaches. This takes some practice, but the benefits of doing so are well worth the effort.
When we use tact to deliver truth, the message is received far better, than if we were to deliver it in a cold, unfeeling manner; disrespectful of the other person. The “vinegar” method of delivering truth turns people off and insults them. When responses to my posts are delivered with “vinegar” I politely remind the commenter of virtue and steer the course of discourse more towards the “honey” way of communicating.
Using tact will get you much further along in life. Trust me I speak from experience. All you have to do is read my most recent post on tact and you will know why you need it.
Yet you might be asking, “How can you communicate truth, with honey, and still speak complete truth?” We’ll address the answer to that question in our next reflection. Don’t miss it!