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Excuse Me! When Did Lying Become Morally Acceptable?

Lying Not Acceptable I’m the type of person that treasures truth. Therefore, if I learn that a person has lied to me, I tend to lose all respect for the person. My husband and I discussed this very topic early on in our courting relationship. After 38 years of marriage, I can say that being truthful with each other is what held us together. There have been times when the truth was painful, but my husband knew that lying would result in worse consequences. So, it is in the sharing of truth, that we have stayed together, through the good times and Continue reading

You Will Know the Truth, and the Truth Will Set You Free

April 5, 2017

Truth and Freedom In the bible passage, “you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free “(John 8: 32), , what is Jesus trying to say to us? Didn’t He give us free will, which automatically makes us free? Why then, would we need to know the truth to be free?

We need to read a few more verses to get the full gist of Jesus’ message. In John 8:34, Jesus states, “everyone who commits sin is a slave to sin.” When we sin, we give up our freedom and become enslaved to the sin. We Continue reading

8 Notes to a Nobody, by Cynthia T. Toney – Book Review

8 Notes to a Nobody 8 Notes to a Nobody, by Cynthia T. Toney, is a heartwarming, yet truthful, depiction of what it is like to be a teenage girl, coming of age. In Cynthia Toney’s tale, Wendy Robichaud, an eighth grader, comes face-to-face with some of the struggles that teens unfortunately face: eating disorders and teen suicide; feelings of inferiority and loneliness.

Right from the dedication, I was hooked, as Cynthia hones in on two very important virtues when she dedicated the book “to teens everywhere struggling to find acceptance and love.” Although the main character, Wendy, faces some struggles, Cynthia Continue reading

Admonish the Sinner and Remain Unscathed

Admonish the Sinner How we communicate truth is the starting place for how to admonish the sinner while remaining unscathed. In this Year of Mercy, I write about a different corporal or spiritual work of mercy each month. This month we address the spiritual work of mercy to “admonish the sinner.”

Perception of truth – wait a minute! Isn’t truth simply truth, and considered undeniable? Yes; but how we communicate the truth makes all the difference. If you come from the corporate world, like I did, then one of the first things you learned about dealing with conflict, is that one’s personal Continue reading

Honesty: Where Does It Really Get You?

May 25, 2016

Honesty How do you want to be perceived by others? Do you want to be perceived in light of honesty and trustworthiness? I’m sure the answer is yes; who wouldn’t want to be perceived in such a manner? Well, to be considered honest and trustworthy, you have to be honest and trustworthy in your words and actions. Even con men get found out sooner or later; so deception will never win the day for you.

So, “everyone lies,” you say? Even if that were true, does that give you the right to lie? Just because everyone else does it, does that Continue reading

Iron Fist in a Velvet Glove

October 21, 2015

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Iron Fist in a Velvet Glove

Have you ever heard that phrase before? It was new to me until the day I had to deliver some bad news on an audit. The auditee said that I had an “iron fist in a velvet glove,” meaning that I delivered a hard punch, with not much comfort, since velvet wouldn’t soften the blow of an iron fist very well. In my innocence, and to some degree of arrogance, at first I took it as a compliment! Then I got to thinking about what he said.

How we deliver truth is just as Continue reading

You Get More with Honey!

October 19, 2015

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Honey versus Vinegar

What’s your choice? “You get more with honey than you do with vinegar” – a classic American idiom that speaks volumes. I think all of us would choose the sweet taste of honey over the bitter taste of vinegar. I think all of us would choose to be spoken to in truth with respect and dignity, versus in a cold, unfeeling manner.

I have learned a great deal about the importance of practicing tact. I have found ways of speaking truth, with tact. For example, have you noticed how all of my posts have a positive spin Continue reading

Honesty with Tact: Can It Be Done?

October 12, 2015

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Honesty truly is the best course of action. The thing that I like most about honesty is that I never have to worry about what story I may have told in the past, because truth is Truth, and the truth doesn’t change. Therefore, if I live in truth, I speak consistently, and by doing so, I build good character.

Through honesty, we build integrity in the eyes of others and with God. Let’s face it, the only thing we get to take with us when standing in judgment before God, at the end of this life, are our sins and Continue reading