Catholic Public Speaker and Inspirational Author: Embracing the virtues to live a happier life!

Embracing Temperance Over the Holidays

Embracing TemperanceNow that the Thanksgiving holiday is over, odds are we are all up a pound, or two, or three… With all the holiday parties, it is so easy to overindulge; so easy to gain weight. Embracing temperance, this holiday season, can be a gift to ourselves and to Christ.

When we refrain from that extra piece of pumpkin pie, the cookies, and the hot chocolate with whipped cream, we save on the calories. The “sacrifice” we make, by saying no to the goodies, can be offered up to Jesus, in thanksgiving for His sacrifice on the Cross.

When we refrain from drinking too much, we prevent scandal to our reputations. The “sacrifice” we make, by saying no to the alcohol, Continue reading

Maintaining Self-Control as Willpower Wanes

self-control Eleven days into the new year – How’s that resolution coming along? Still going strong, or has the willpower waned? Making positive change is not always so easy. We all have good intentions as the ball drops at midnight on New Year’s Day. We even have that gung-ho attitude on the first Monday back to work. Everyone is ready to hit the salad bar rather than the burger joint. The local gym is overcrowded with people working out. Self-Control is on steroids!

Then, after a few days, the desire to keep up the diet, or go to the gym, or resist that cigarette seems to wane. What is one to do? How can you keep your new year’s resolution to Continue reading

Gluttony Will Harm You Physically, Spiritually

gluttony-2We continue with the fourth installment of our seven-part series on the seven deadly sins. Today we discuss Gluttony.

Gluttony, the overindulgence of eating/drinking to excess, will physically and spiritually harm you if left unchecked and unaddressed. Overeating/drinking can result in physical illnesses such as diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and liver disease, just to name a few. Gluttony robs you of the life you were meant to live, because you become the slave to the object of your temporal desire. You become fixated on the food and/or the drink.

Gluttony causes you to use food and/or drink to look for that momentary “respite” from the reality of your life; to eradicate pain that originates from a painful reality; Continue reading

Lust Will Enslave You: Break Free From the Chains!

chains-of-lust We continue with the third installment of our seven part series on the seven deadly sins. Today we discuss Lust.

Lust causes you to objectify the “object” of your desires, rather than seeing the individual as a human being, deserving dignity. When you disregard human dignity, it becomes very easy to lose respect for others and for yourself.

Lust is disordered desire for, or inordinate enjoyment of, sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes. 1

Lustful behavior is addictive, deluding the person into believing that it satisfies their sexual desires. Yet, in all reality, lust never satisfies. Lust only enslaves. Once a person goes down Continue reading

Summing Up the Theological and Cardinal Virtues

Seven Virtues

For the past 21 weeks we have taken an in-depth look at the theological virtues of Faith, Hope and Charity, as well as an in-depth look at the cardinal virtues of Prudence, Temperance, Fortitude and Justice. In looking at each virtue individually we have learned what the virtue is, why we should embrace each one of them, and how we might practice them to live happier lives. We now have the basic understanding for living a virtuous life, with one more very important aspect left to discuss.

It is one thing to look at each of these seven virtues by themselves. Now it’s time to put the pieces of the puzzle together and see these virtues in a different light. Continue reading

Final Thoughts on Temperance

Final Thoughts on Temperance

Do you make good choices or bad choices? With the virtue of Temperance, it comes down to the choices that we make in life. Do you choose to follow God, or the latest trends? Do you live a healthy lifestyle, or do you overeat and/or drink too much? Do you choose to be faithful to your vocation in life, or do you embrace “relativism” by telling yourself that what you choose to do really isn’t so wrong, even though your conscience tells you otherwise? Are you using the virtues of Prudence and Temperance in your life to build good character or not? What examples do you set for your children as a result of your choices? Do you understand the Continue reading

Practicing Temperance Part III of III

chastity

In part I we addressed transitioning from gluttony to fasting, and in part II we addressed transitioning from drunkenness to sobriety. Today we will discuss transitioning from lustful behavior to chastity.

When we lust after someone, we not only place temporal pleasure ahead of our love for God, but we also diminish the dignity of the person being lusted over as well as ourselves. Placing this temporal pleasure first and foremost above our end goal of eternity with God causes us once again to experience one of the seven deadly sins, or capital sins, of lust. It is deadly because our reason and will can become disordered by lust. Because the temporal pleasure is so strong, we willfully ignore the Continue reading

Practicing Temperance Part II of III

sobriety

In our last reflection we discussed the need for bringing food consumption into moderation. Today we will discuss the need for addressing excessive drinking. Science has proven that excessive drinking, or alcoholism, is a physical disease, requiring spiritual and medical attention. Take a look at this video to learn the positive impact on the family life when excessive drinking is brought under control.

Alcoholics Anonymous has a twelve step program to address the disease from a spiritual perspective. Combined with a doctor’s care, physical and spiritual healing is possible.

Alcoholics Anonymous What are the 12 Steps?

  1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could Continue reading