Catholic Public Speaker and Inspirational Author: Embracing the virtues to live a happier life!

Embracing Gentleness: For Some a Struggle

Embracing Gentleness

Embracing gentleness can only lead to good things in your life. I speak from experience.

Before retiring from the bank auditing profession to go back to school to obtain my Masters in Pastoral Theology, I was an over-achieving technology audit manager who sought excellence in all that I did, and also sought excellence from all those who worked for me and with me. Because of my good track record of job performance, I had been tapped to lead a very special project that would impact the working style and quality of my entire team of approximately 50 people. I took this responsibility very seriously. I had an intense passion for the work, and especially the work ethic. Well, I got Continue reading

Practicing Respect – Do you do it with everyone?

Practicing Respect Practicing respect gets easier once we acknowledge that everyone has been created in the image and likeness of God, AND once we acknowledge that our neighbor has the right to make his/her own choices, even when we personally would not make the same choice. That’s what free will is all about. If God can respect our own individual free will, and allow each of us to make, what may seem to others to be, stupid or erroneous mistakes, then we must respect the choices of others. It all goes back to these common phrases that we have all heard before, but warrant repeating:

“If you can’t say anything nice, say nothing at all.”

“Treat others as you would like to Continue reading

Embrace Respect? Where Do You Stand?


Embrace RespectEmbrace Respect? I’m more inclined to ask you why you wouldn’t embrace respect. As humans, we are created as social beings, meant to live in a community, where the basic foundation of living in a community is to give and get respect. So why do we see so much disrespect? Disrespect is something we often claim to see in others, but fail to see in ourselves.

“Why do you notice the splinter in your brother’s eye, but do not perceive the wooden plank in your own eye?” (Matthew 7:3).

We see so much disrespect in today’s society because bigotry is learned and passed on from generation to generation. Domestic violence is taught as a way to behave and, when Continue reading

Respect – A Defining Virtue for Character Building

Respect Respect: concern for what is noble in every human being. Respect defines character building. Without respect for God and others, how could other virtuous habits spring forth? Father Romano Guardini more clearly defined this virtue as something akin to reverence, in his book, Learning the Virtues That Lead You to God. He states:

  • Every genuine virtue extends over many levels and stages because it is an attitude of a living person. Hence reverence can and should appear in everyday life, and then we can call it “respect” (p. 59).
  • Respect means that one takes another’s conviction seriously (p. 60).
  • Respect desires privacy for the other person (p. 60).
  • Respect is the guarantee that the relations of one person Continue reading

Practice Contentment – Can that be done?

Practice Contentment

Practice contentment? Can that really be done? Yes! To effectively practice contentment, first take stock of what you find to be most important. Is it your home, your car, your job, etc.; those tangible things of this world? Or is it love of family and friends, good health, a strong faith, and hope in Christ; the intangible things of this life? Do you count your blessings frequently? If not, then start doing so.

Second, consider looking for the excess in your life, and where feasible, give those excess goods away to someone or some organization in need; your burden will be light. When you give you will find that you get more back in return – you become content.

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True Contentment: A Virtue Worth Embracing Wholeheartedly

True Contentment 3Embracing true contentment requires us to make a conscious disassociation with the dependence on material goods. Sounds difficult, doesn’t it? Yet, if we are to obtain true contentment, then we must place our dependence on God. We must believe that He will provide all that we need, to get us through this life.

As Christians, we are the living example of hope in Christ. If we are too busy putting our stock in material goods, rather than faith in God, then how do you think we come across to non-believers? If we are not satisfied with what the Lord provides, then where is our trust and faith in God as a living example to others? Why Continue reading

Do you want to experience contentment?

ContentmentContentment is independence from material goods; being satisfied and grateful for what we have, not seeking to obtain excessive material goods (like that sporty new car or oversized new house). Dr. Andrew Weil, M.D. (often seen on the Dr. Oz show) shown in the video clip below, says this about contentment:

“Contentment is an inner feeling of satisfaction that’s really not dependent on external factors.”

Check out what Dr. Weil has to say regarding contentment:



So what would make you content in your inner life? For me it is the strength of my faith, the hope of my salvation in Christ Jesus, and the love of God, my husband, family and friends. Faith – Hope – Love – Continue reading

Practice Confidence in God

Practice Confidence

To effectively practice confidence in God and in yourself, step one is to seek the Holy Spirit’s counsel and guidance asking for the virtues/gifts of wisdom, discernment, knowledge and understanding, so that you can better traverse through this journey that we call life. Step two is to pray for increased confidence in God and in yourself. You can do this by asking the Holy Spirit to help you see all the good things going on around you that impact your life. Give thanks to God for your blessings (your loved ones, your needs met, the graces received, etc.). Step three may seem to be the most challenging: Face your doubts and fears, knowing God is right beside you. Perhaps, Continue reading