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Multiple Sins Against Chastity – A Look at the Ninth Commandment

Sins Against Chastity Human love demands a total self-giving of one to another within the covenant of marriage. There is no room for self-gratification, or for expressions of sexual intercourse aside from the conjugal act within marriage. For when these things happen, they are not based on love. Rather, they are based upon deception and a misuse of one’s own sexuality. Actions such as these, linked to the Ninth Commandment, diminish the dignity of all parties involved. Innately, we all know this, because God has infused within each one of us His Natural Law of right versus wrong. Yet, we still commit the Continue reading

Rightfully Ours, by Carolyn Astfalk – Book Review

Rightfully Ours Rightfully Ours, by Carolyn Astfalk, rightfully belongs on your “Want to Read” list! In Astfalk’s third Christian fiction novel, she introduces us to two teenagers: Rachel Mueller and Paul Porter. At the beginning of the book, when Rachel and Paul meet, they are only 14 and 16, respectively. Throughout the story, we see a deep friendship blossom between the two characters. As they get to know each other, we see that friendship grow into love, young love.

Rightfully Ours deals with the virtue of chastity head on; yet in a manner that would make any teen want to be Continue reading

Lust Will Enslave You: Break Free From the Chains!

chains-of-lust We continue with the third installment of our seven part series on the seven deadly sins. Today we discuss Lust.

Lust causes you to objectify the “object” of your desires, rather than seeing the individual as a human being, deserving dignity. When you disregard human dignity, it becomes very easy to lose respect for others and for yourself.

Lust is disordered desire for, or inordinate enjoyment of, sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes. 1

Lustful behavior is addictive, deluding the person into believing that  Continue reading

Moral Disconnect Regarding Sex

Moral Disconnect Moral disconnects regarding sex exist between God and man as a result of individualism, autonomy, secularism, and concupiscence. Today, we are bombarded from all four fronts; fighting a moral battle within. Let’s start this discussion by first defining the four terms:

Individualism

“…there is a tendency to grant to the individual conscience the prerogative of independently determining the criteria of good and evil and then acting accordingly. Such an outlook is quite congenial to an individualist ethic, wherein each individual is faced with his own truth, different from the truth of others.” 1

Autonomy

“…the right to determine what Continue reading

Sex Inside/Outside of Marriage – God’s Stance

God's Stance on Sex Sex is a gift from God for expressing self-giving love and procreating children. Therefore, it behooves us to be aware of God’s will in how we are to “be fertile and multiply” (Gen. 1:28). If you deem the expression of sexual love between any two people as acceptable, then why does God think differently about fornication, adultery and sodomy? His position remains unchanged, on these acts, since the creation of Adam and Eve.

Before going too deep here, let’s first define the terms of concern:

  1. Fornication – sex between two unmarried people of the male and female species
  2. Adultery – Continue reading

Chastity: Living the Chaste Life

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Chastity tempers, regulates and moderates our sexual desires, thoughts and actions.1

According to God, Adam and Eve were instructed to “be fertile and multiply” (Gen 1:28). Jesus affirmed this instruction by stating, “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate” (Matt 19:6). Jesus teaches that through the covenantal oath of marriage and through the sexual union that ensues, the husband and wife become one. As a married couple, they are free to engage in sexual relations with each other; to bring forth Continue reading

Practicing Temperance Part III of III

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In part I we addressed transitioning from gluttony to fasting, and in part II we addressed transitioning from drunkenness to sobriety. Today we will discuss transitioning from lustful behavior to chastity.

When we lust after someone, we not only place temporal pleasure ahead of our love for God, but we also diminish the dignity of the person being lusted over as well as ourselves. Placing this temporal pleasure first and foremost above our end goal of eternity with God causes us once again to experience one of the seven deadly sins, or capital sins, of lust. It is deadly because Continue reading