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Charlotte’s Honor – Book Review

Charlotte's HonorCharlotte’s Honor, by Ellen Gable, a sequel to Julia’s Gifts, is set in wartime Europe during the summer of 1918. Here, we find Charlotte Zielinski, working as a nurse at a field hospital in France. In Julia’s Gifts, Charlotte was a supporting character. Here in Charlotte’s Honor, we see Charlotte, with her hopes and dreams, take center stage along with the reality of war. The days are long, and the work is hard, but Charlotte finds solace tending to the dying, as each takes their last breaths. Someone needs to be by their sides, as no one should die alone.

As Charlotte tends to the dying, she meets young Dr. Paul Kilgallen. She’s smitten with him, Continue reading

Sexual Sins, A Real Deterrent to Heaven

Sexual sins deter us from heavenAs a Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults (RCIA) Coordinator, I get a lot of questions about marriage, divorce and the need for annulments. Unlike some of our Protestant brethren, Catholics believe that marriage is a sacrament, instituted by God, at the dawn of mankind (Gen. 2:24) and reaffirmed by Christ (Matt 19:6). We also believe that it is a covenantal commitment between husband, wife and God, meant to last for a lifetime. In that covenantal relationship, God blesses the union of man and woman, and seals it with an unbreakable marriage bond. Therefore, sexual sins, conducted outside of the marriage covenant, can be a real deterrent to getting to Heaven.

Purposes and Properties of Marriage

Based upon the Catholic Continue reading

Multiple Sins Against Chastity – A Look at the Ninth Commandment

Sins Against Chastity Human love demands a total self-giving of one to another within the covenant of marriage. There is no room for self-gratification, or for expressions of sexual intercourse aside from the conjugal act within marriage. For when these things happen, they are not based on love. Rather, they are based upon deception and a misuse of one’s own sexuality. Actions such as these, linked to the Ninth Commandment, diminish the dignity of all parties involved. Innately, we all know this, because God has infused within each one of us His Natural Law of right versus wrong. Yet, we still commit the sins against Chastity.

Sins Against Chastity

We know that to practice Chastity, we are to refrain from engaging in sexual Continue reading

Rightfully Ours, by Carolyn Astfalk – Book Review

Rightfully Ours Rightfully Ours, by Carolyn Astfalk, rightfully belongs on your “Want to Read” list! In Astfalk’s third Christian fiction novel, she introduces us to two teenagers: Rachel Mueller and Paul Porter. At the beginning of the book, when Rachel and Paul meet, they are only 14 and 16, respectively. Throughout the story, we see a deep friendship blossom between the two characters. As they get to know each other, we see that friendship grow into love, young love.

Rightfully Ours deals with the virtue of chastity head on; yet in a manner that would make any teen want to be like Rachel and Paul. These two characters serve as excellent role models for teenagers coming to grips with burgeoning love Continue reading

Lust Will Enslave You: Break Free From the Chains!

chains-of-lust We continue with the third installment of our seven part series on the seven deadly sins. Today we discuss Lust.

Lust causes you to objectify the “object” of your desires, rather than seeing the individual as a human being, deserving dignity. When you disregard human dignity, it becomes very easy to lose respect for others and for yourself.

Lust is disordered desire for, or inordinate enjoyment of, sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes. 1

Lustful behavior is addictive, deluding the person into believing that it satisfies their sexual desires. Yet, in all reality, lust never satisfies. Lust only enslaves. Once a person goes down Continue reading

Moral Disconnect Regarding Sex

Moral Disconnect Moral disconnects regarding sex exist between God and man as a result of individualism, autonomy, secularism, and concupiscence. Today, we are bombarded from all four fronts; fighting a moral battle within. Let’s start this discussion by first defining the four terms:

Individualism

“…there is a tendency to grant to the individual conscience the prerogative of independently determining the criteria of good and evil and then acting accordingly. Such an outlook is quite congenial to an individualist ethic, wherein each individual is faced with his own truth, different from the truth of others.” 1

Autonomy

“…the right to determine what is good or evil. Human freedom would thus be able to ‘create values’ and would enjoy a primacy over truth, Continue reading

Sex Inside/Outside of Marriage – God’s Stance

God's Stance on Sex Sex is a gift from God for expressing self-giving love and procreating children. Therefore, it behooves us to be aware of God’s will in how we are to “be fertile and multiply” (Gen. 1:28). If you deem the expression of sexual love between any two people as acceptable, then why does God think differently about fornication, adultery and sodomy? His position remains unchanged, on these acts, since the creation of Adam and Eve.

Before going too deep here, let’s first define the terms of concern:

  1. Fornication – sex between two unmarried people of the male and female species
  2. Adultery – a married person engaging in sex with someone other than one’s spouse
  3. Sodomy – engaging in sexual relations with a Continue reading

Chastity: Living the Chaste Life

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Chastity tempers, regulates and moderates our sexual desires, thoughts and actions.1

According to God, Adam and Eve were instructed to “be fertile and multiply” (Gen 1:28). Jesus affirmed this instruction by stating, “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate” (Matt 19:6). Jesus teaches that through the covenantal oath of marriage and through the sexual union that ensues, the husband and wife become one. As a married couple, they are free to engage in sexual relations with each other; to bring forth new life, thusly fulfilling God’s command to be fertile and multiply.

Scripture dictates that sexual relations are reserved for Continue reading