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Sex Inside/Outside of Marriage – God’s Stance

June 1, 2015

God's Stance on Sex Sex is a gift from God for expressing self-giving love and procreating children. Therefore, it behooves us to be aware of God’s will in how we are to “be fertile and multiply” (Gen. 1:28). If you deem the expression of sexual love between any two people as acceptable, then why does God think differently about fornication, adultery and sodomy? His position remains unchanged, on these acts, since the creation of Adam and Eve.

Before going too deep here, let’s first define the terms of concern:

  1. Fornication – sex between two unmarried people of the male and female species
  2. Adultery – a married person engaging in sex with someone other than one’s spouse
  3. Sodomy – engaging in sexual relations with a person of the same sex

As it relates to these sins St. Paul tells us, “Neither fornicators… nor adulterers, nor boy prostitutes, nor sodomites…will inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Cor. 6:9-10). This is because God deems these acts as mortally sinful, IF (and this is a big IF), man deems these acts as acceptable behavior, AND engages in them accordingly; thereby offending God. St. Paul addresses the same thought, in general terms, when he stated:

This is the will of God – your holiness; that you refrain from immorality, that each of you knows how to acquire a wife for himself in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion (1 Thess. 4:3-5).

Notice how I italicized the words “wife’ and “himself,” highlighting the intention for differentiation of the sexes, and that the use of the word “wife” indicates marriage.

God’s Word on Sex

For further proof of God’s stance on sexual behavior, we can look at the Old Testament and the Ten Commandments as it relates to adultery: “You shall not commit adultery” (Deut. 5:18) and “You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife” (Deut. 5:21). We can also look at the story of Sodom and Gomorrah to learn why sodomy is mortally sinful (Gen. 19:1-26).

God’s Word tells us that sex is reserved for those men and women who enter into covenantal relationships of marriage (as defined by God in Genesis and affirmed by Jesus in Matt 19:6). Therefore, if unmarried, practice chastity by abstaining from sex. If married then practice chastity by being faithful to your spouse.

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