Honesty truly is the best course of action. The thing that I like most about honesty is that I never have to worry about what story I may have told in the past, because truth is Truth, and the truth doesn’t change. Therefore, if I live in truth, I speak consistently, and by doing so, I build good character.
Through honesty, we build integrity in the eyes of others and with God. Let’s face it, the only thing we get to take with us when standing in judgment before God, at the end of this life, are our sins and our integrity. I don’t know about you, but I want my integrity to be as intact as possible. That means embracing the truth, living the truth, and telling the truth. We must mean what we say, and say what we mean. No skirting around the bush so to speak. However, we must express truth with respect and dignity for the other person. This requires that we exert consideration and tact.
I have always been a very truthful person. However, most of my life I seriously lacked tact; to the point that it was detrimental for me. Tact eluded me for so long. I’m from New Jersey; born and raised. I know that is no excuse for my bluntness, but I know that it contributed to it. Oh, I have always been one to say what I mean and mean what I say, but maybe with a bit too much honesty!
Tact can be a foreign language to some of us. I know it was for me. This Jersey girl knew how to shoot straight from the hip; the God’s honest truth, even if it cut you to the core. Bluntness was probably my biggest weakness. I cared more about being right than being kind. Honesty was paramount to me in all of my relationships, especially my business relationships. As an auditor, I definitely lost respect for business clients when I discovered that they had covered something up, or outright lied. For me truthfulness had to be established before trust would ever be granted. Unlike one of my co-workers who was just the opposite: she would trust until the person had proved he was untrustworthy. I admire her for that.
We’ll begin tackling tact in our next reflection. It is confession time for me, so don’t miss it!