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Embracing Gentleness: For Some a Struggle

Embracing Gentleness

Embracing gentleness can only lead to good things in your life. I speak from experience.

Before retiring from the bank auditing profession to go back to school to obtain my Masters in Pastoral Theology, I was an over-achieving technology audit manager who sought excellence in all that I did, and also sought excellence from all those who worked for me and with me. Because of my good track record of job performance, I had been tapped to lead a very special project that would impact the working style and quality of my entire team of approximately 50 people. I took this responsibility very seriously. I had an intense passion for the work, and especially the work ethic. Well, I got the job done, and after it was all over, my manager made a comment to me that will stay with me forever, and was the impetus for change in my life. She said, “Ginny, you achieved your goal, but you left dead bodies in your wake.”

I was aggressive, in the pursuit of improved quality. In the short-term, I achieved the objective, but in the long-term I distanced myself from those who could have become my allies. I said what I meant, and meant what I said during the project, but tact, and most importantly, gentleness, were not in my tool belt of virtues. It was quite evident that I was not embracing gentleness.

It’s really true: “You get more with honey than with vinegar.” The tone of your voice has an impact on the listener. The choice of words used to write has an impact on the reader. People are attracted to the good, to the gentle souls in their lives. I learned this lesson the hard way. May you read my story, and learn the lesson of embracing gentleness the easy way. I pray that you examine how you interact with others and that you find reason for embracing gentleness in your life.

How do you practice gentleness? We’ll address the answer to that question in our next reflection. Don’t miss it!

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