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Difficult to Forgive? Then Pray!


Do you find it difficult to forgive others? If so, pray for the ability to forgive. Forgiving others is not an easy task, and therefore, many of us find it so hard to let go of the pain. On many occasions, it will take some Divine assistance. Sometimes the hurt is so great we can’t see or think clearly. We get so caught up in the emotion that forgiveness is the last thing on our minds. It’s during times like these that we must take time to pray. We need to ask God to alleviate the pain caused by the offense. We then need to pray for the ability to forgive. Actual forgiveness requires us to let go of the harbored anger and resentment. We must relinquish the pain to God, so that He may free our souls to love and trust again.

Two Things to Consider

  1. How much do you want to be forgiven for the things that you have done wrong? To seek full forgiveness for your own sins, you must fully forgive all offenses made against you. Remember that “as” word within the Our Father? “…forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.”
  2. Who’s really in charge? You or God? “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord” (Romans 12:19). God sees the big picture. We only see bits and pieces. His justice is the only justice that really matters. This is why it is important to let go and let God handle the matter. Vengeance achieves nothing for us in relation to the salvation of souls, especially our own souls. It only wreaks more violence and hurt. It never lessens our original pain. It can never bring back what was lost.

Action to Take: Pray!

Pray! Then, pray some more! God will hear you and heal you. He will give you the ability to forgive, as well as the ability to let go of the anger, resentment and pain. He will free you from the bondage of the offense so that you may love and trust again.

With forgiveness, comes mercy. Is mercy only Jesus’ to give, or is there more to this virtue? We’ll discuss the answer to that question in our next reflection on the virtue of Mercy. Don’t miss it!

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4 Responses to Difficult to Forgive? Then Pray!

  • Forgiveness is such a complex yet simple thing. Complex because we must evaluate our motives for not forgiving, and simple because we can just lay it at His feet and walk free…as we would like our offenses to be forgiven.

  • It seems to me that sometimes forgiveness needs to be visited over and over again at ever deeper levels. For sometimes I think I have forgiven someone only to find that when I encounter a similar set of circumstances in my interactions with others the old feelings of hurt reappear and are much closer to my surface than I thought. Somehow that old hard feeling was still in me, hiding deep and out of sight and forgotten.

    • That’s very true Will! What I think you’re saying is that you haven’t yet dealt with the real deep cause of the hurt, and you are in the process of peeling back the onion, so to speak. Yet, the awareness in itself is a huge step in getting to the point of true forgiveness. When you are ready to face the real deep cause of the hurt, knowing that now as an adult it can’t hurt you any longer like it once did, then and only then, will you be ready to lay it at the foot of the altar and walk away light as a feather. I keep praying for you!

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