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Maintaining Self-Control as Willpower Wanes

self-control Eleven days into the new year – How’s that resolution coming along? Still going strong, or has the willpower waned? Making positive change is not always so easy. We all have good intentions as the ball drops at midnight on New Year’s Day. We even have that gung-ho attitude on the first Monday back to work. Everyone is ready to hit the salad bar rather than the burger joint. The local gym is overcrowded with people working out. Self-Control is on steroids!

Then, after a few days, the desire to keep up the diet, or go to the gym, or Continue reading

Change for the Better!

Change for the Better It’s that time of year once again, when we assess how we are doing; when we make resolutions to do things we have yet to do, or to do things differently. We want to see positive change! Yet, we are all creatures of habit, and sometimes our habits are not good. That is why every January we make resolutions to eat healthier, to stop smoking/drinking/taking drugs, etc. only to fall off the wagon as soon as the first temptation crosses our paths.

Have you ever stopped to think about why you are tempted; not what tempts you, but why you Continue reading

Lose Weight the Right Way

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Lose weight at this time of year?

Yes, it can be done!

Lose weight the right way – this time for the right reasons and for good! It’s that time of year, when we are tempted to imbibe on eggnog and eat all sorts of baked goods. The temptations are everywhere you look: At the grocery store, on TV, in magazines; even in your own home.

Would you like to get through this holiday season and not gain weight? Maybe even lose a pound or two? If so, let me introduce you to the process I used to lose 60 Continue reading

Final Thoughts on Temperance

Final Thoughts on Temperance

Do you make good choices or bad choices? With the virtue of Temperance, it comes down to the choices that we make in life. Do you choose to follow God, or the latest trends? Do you live a healthy lifestyle, or do you overeat and/or drink too much? Do you choose to be faithful to your vocation in life, or do you embrace “relativism” by telling yourself that what you choose to do really isn’t so wrong, even though your conscience tells you otherwise? Are you using the virtues of Prudence and Temperance in your life to build good character Continue reading

Practicing Temperance Part III of III


In part I we addressed transitioning from gluttony to fasting, and in part II we addressed transitioning from drunkenness to sobriety. Today we will discuss transitioning from lustful behavior to chastity.

When we lust after someone, we not only place temporal pleasure ahead of our love for God, but we also diminish the dignity of the person being lusted over as well as ourselves. Placing this temporal pleasure first and foremost above our end goal of eternity with God causes us once again to experience one of the seven deadly sins, or capital sins, of lust. It is deadly because Continue reading

Practicing Temperance Part II of III


In our last reflection we discussed the need for bringing food consumption into moderation. Today we will discuss the need for addressing excessive drinking. Science has proven that excessive drinking, or alcoholism, is a physical disease, requiring spiritual and medical attention. Take a look at this video to learn the positive impact on the family life when excessive drinking is brought under control.

Alcoholics Anonymous has a twelve step program to address the disease from a spiritual perspective. Combined with a doctor’s care, physical and spiritual healing is possible.

Alcoholics Anonymous What are the 12 Steps?

  1. We admitted we were Continue reading

Practicing Temperance – Part I of III

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Through the practice of the virtue of Temperance, we can move from a state of sin to a state of grace; from gluttony to fasting and abstinence; from drunkenness to sobriety; from lust to chastity. Whatever the obsession, we can move to a state of grace through the gift of the virtue of Temperance. Today we will discuss the move from gluttony to fasting and abstinence, with the other two topics covered in the next two reflections.

Let’s first define gluttony: It is an over-indulgent desire for eating and drinking, whether it is the quantity or quality of food. It Continue reading

Temperance and the Commandments – Part III of III

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In our last two reflections on the virtue of Temperance, we covered Temperance’s association with the Fourth Commandment to honor one’s father and mother and the Sixth Commandment, to not commit adultery. Today we will conclude this mini-series by discussing how Temperance is associated with the Ninth Commandment: Thou shall not covet thy neighbor’s wife.

As with the discussion on adultery, from our last reflection, so too it is with lust for another that we sin in God’s eyes. Merely envisioning being with another person sexually, outside of the marital union, is considered sinful.

Lust is disordered desire for, or Continue reading