A true friend loves without fail; that is the foundation of true friendship. True friendship requires mutual love between parties. How does a friendship result? First, you identify common interests. Next you perceive desirable character traits in each other. You are drawn to each other, and want to mutually pursue getting to know each other better. Through the interchange of dialogue, you come to know more about each other, and the friendship blossoms. You build trust with each other. Before you know it, you have mutual love for each other, and call each other friend.
The same can be true for our relationship with God. God is the Creator of all good things. Whatever is truly good in life, that we like, is something we have in common with God. We are drawn to His Supreme Goodness. We desire to get to know Him better, through the reading of Scripture, through prayer (a dialogue with God), and through religious instruction. The more we learn about God, the more we find that we can trust Him, and entrust our hearts to Him. The love is reciprocated between us; we have mutual love for each other.
God is a true friend, ever faithful, always by our sides, totally in love with each one of us. When we build human relationships with our neighbor, we emanate that same love outward that we mutually share with God.
Many of us are lucky if we have one or two friends in life that meet this criterion of true friendship. I am blessed that my husband is my best friend. We have a lot in common. We are drawn to the good qualities within each other. We can talk to each other about anything and everything. We can finish each other’s sentences, and can communicate at times without even speaking, because our facial expressions are known to each other so intimately. We trust each other implicitly. We have mutual love for each other.
There are different types of friendship, corresponding with different types of love, yet all friendships are based upon common interests, being drawn to the good in others, open dialogue, the building of trust, and mutual love.
How is it that life-long friends are considered gifts from God? We’ll address the answer to that question in our next reflection. Don’t miss it!